The two costs
Both are real, both are ongoing, and only one of them is denominated in a field you look at.
Set the envelope too wide and every trade that retraces before running gives back more than it needed to; the position survives but the outcome is smaller, and giveback records the difference in R. Set it too tight and a share of trades that would have run are removed by movement that did not invalidate anything. The cost is the entire remainder of a move that never appears in the log, because the position was gone before the move happened. Nothing measures a trade's counterfactual. The trade closes at a small loss and joins the population of ordinary losing trades, where it is completely invisible.
Schematic. Expectancy has an interior optimum. What the weekly review measures — giveback — falls monotonically as the envelope tightens, so the visible metric keeps improving well past the point where the real one has turned.

